I mainly posted this cause if anyone’s like how i am, they just need someone to talk to so they can get whatever is on their mind out, just to talk to someone who wont judge or just to say whatever is bothering them. Most people can trust telling people online what is wrong since they don’t know them in real life and also people can’t really tell people who are near/close to them.
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My venting:
First off i’m really stressed. I need to find a job so i can actually get my daughter what she needs, i’m getting K-Tap for her and that’s not enough to actually get the things that she really needs and i want to buy her things just because i want too and half the time i don’t have the money or i have to wait till the beginning of the month to even get her stuff(some of the time). I applied for four jobs late last night and early this morning on the net but i’m scared that i might not get the jobs.
Second,I’m trying to find a place for just my daughter and myself but my dad hasn’t taken me to to housing place for section 8 and even if that it takes up to a year for them to even say yes you have it or no you don’t.
Thrid, I don’t have my liceness and i’m trying to get that so i don’t have to rely on anyone to bring me anywhere….
Forth, my daughter’s sperm doner hasn’t even paid child support for last month when he was suppous too…he hasn’t asked about how she is doing, try to get in contact with me to try and come see her or even bought her anything….he has three other kids that he doesn’t have any cusdty over, one of his kids lives with his mother, the other one he doesn’t even see and his second youngest one he lives with her mother so he has a lot to do with her but he acts like he doesn’t even want anything to do with my daughter(i say mine since he hasn’t been there for her at all since he had left me for his other baby momma) and if that is true that he doesn’t want anything to do with her then he needs to sign over his rights so i can fully take care of her without having to worry about him.
And last….i just don’t feel like i’m doing my best to take care of her…i feel like i could do so much more to provide for her but it seems that i’m not.
That all sucks and I really can’t stand what that jerk is doin’. Kagome, you are doin’ the best you can do for your child and that’s all you can do. Not all parents - single or married can give their child what they want, need is more important than want. Just do the best you can.
My rant is about men who are lyin’ cheatin’ dumbasses! My friend who I care so much about is engaged to a cheater and a liar who takes full avantage of her sweet nature. It bugs me, makes me wanna can him, punch his ugly face and throw him in a pit with wolves. I have NO idea why she stays with him. He even called her a bitch more than once in public, made her cry more than once and he of course cheats. He makes my blood boil!
@Kagome: Just by reading how much you are trying to make circumstances better for your baby girl makes me realize how much of a good mother you are. My parents blessed my brother and I with a baby sister almost four years ago, and at my age, I can now see what ‘parents’ are supposed to do and understand why they do them. And I’m very positive that you are a mother with the greatest heart possible and that your child has what she needs the most: a loving heart just for herself. Although children love toys and there are obvious material things that they need for their development and growth, the love of a parent is essential, even if it means it only comes from one of the two that spawned them. Concentrate on loving your child and don’t fuss over the tantrums your sperm-donor has at the moment, he should be wiser to realize that he’s neglecting a being who is completely lovely and simply adorable. It is his loss, and for you, an opening to love your baby with twice the love!
@Inuyasha-sama: Ack, men! I wish I knew something of this, but I’m seriously lacking experience in the men field. However, I can tell you that no woman deserves being degraded, no matter the reason. I think it’s time for you to really have a chat with her about things. If she doesn’t want to see how things are and thinks ‘he will change once I marry him,’ let her see for herself. There is no better help than the one you give to yourself. If she doesn’t want to ‘see’ his ways right now, she’ll have to see his real colours herself. But the best thing you can do as a supportive friend, is talk to her. That is your duty but you cannot force her to see things the way you see them, even if it is the obvious truth, nor can you force her to do what you think is right, even if it is the forthright reality.
As for my rant… Well, I’m about to leave the nest to study abroad, and now that the day is about two weeks near, I’m shitting my pants with terror of what awaits me. Everything will be different; I’ll be finally fending for myself, to a point since I’m still financially dependent on my parents, but aside from that, I’m on my own in a foreign country in a city I’ve never been at and studying in a university I’ve no idea what is like. However, what has me most apprehensive is not only that my life is seriously taking a turn, but that I have two more weeks until I leave and I still haven’t found an apartment. Everything that I’ve searched has either been too expensive, unfurnished, or in a bad area of town. It scares me that the day that I get there I will not have an apartment yet (and I’m arriving with tight time considering that once I get there I will start school in about 4 days). It’s so frustrating that I can’t be physically there apartment hunting because my family opted for vacationing the week I start orientation (week before classes commence). On one side, I’m afraid my parents are being too overconfident about the whole situation, and on another hand, I feel that they are being just too aloof about it to actually comprehend the dilemma that I’m in: going off to live in an alien place where I don’t even have the remotest clue where I’ll be living for the next four years because the bleeding university doesn’t have residences. -/endpout.-
Yeah, I’ve been persistent on talkin’ to her. . . A friend is gonna give her an intervention. I know, she saw his true colours, but he says things that make her believe that he did those things by accident. . .
I do agree with Jennor, Kagome.
Jennor, I have a good feelin’ that things will work out.
@Inuyasha-sama: She should know what she’s getting into, if she doesn’t want to accept the ‘reality’ that everyone is telling her, it’s her business then. You should at least feel content that you warned her about it and did your roll as a friend by letting her own. But as I said before, it’s all up to her, really. And all I think that you can do, if she decides to go through with it, is be there for her whenever he does something stupid, or ‘by accident.’ There is perhaps another side to him that only she is able to see, and it could be better than his mishaps in her opinion (although I seriously think that it’s dumb to stay with someone that degrades you). Stick with her though, if you do care about her, you should be at her side to comfort her and listen to her when he does these stupid things.
I have that feeling now, too. Thank you so much. I received an email today from my uncle who knows this woman that finds apartments for international students from my country and she’s found a place for me. My parents said yes to it, but I’m just waiting for what my roommate says about it. Seems I have less to worry about now, thankfully.
Inuyasha-sama- For your friend, the only thing you can really do is be there for her when she needs someone to talk to. Most girls that i know always stays or goes back to abusive relationships since it’s all they know or use too. Hopefully in time she will realize she needs a better man that will love her with all of his heart and treat her very well!
Jennor- For your schooling, it must be hard. I haven’t even gotten my GED yet(trying to find a good place to do so) so i have no clue what you must be going through. I seriously hope that everything will turn out for the best for you. Where are you studying overseas at? If you don’t mind me asking.
And to the both of you, thanks. A lot has happened since i posted that status or whatnot. Her sperm doner and his 50 year old crack whore(sorry if i’m sounding rude but she has caused so many problems for me that almost cost the life of my daughter) of a girlfriend he has started crap with me over a status i posted on Facebook stating that i needed a job so i could buy Brionna(my daughter) what she needs and extra since it’s a mother thing to buy extra(hopefully haha) and i said that her sperm doner hasn’t paid child support and they both went off on me. My brother had read it and he went through the roof and lost it. He called her sperm doner going off on him, her sperm doner called back twice but hung up before my brother could even answer, so his girlfriend(sperm doner’s) called back and went off on my brother saying she was going to kill him and her brother told him also that he was going to shot up our house. I just wish they both would not be in my life, to be honest she shouldn’t even get involved since my daughter truly doesn’t have anything to do with her. I really do hate them both and wish i could just raise my daughter in a world without volience(?)
@Kagome: Thank you for the support! I’ll be going to Vancouver, Canada for my studies. I hope everything goes well, although my possible “roommate” bailed on me on the apartment I found because rent was too much for her. So now I’m pretty much stuck with a really expensive apartment (that fits 3 people) all for my lonely self… It’s really elfin’ great. I hope you get your GED soon, btw. A close friend of mine got his last year, but he lives in Texas… ._ .
Is there a way for you to arrange some sort of agreement to make him commit to sending you the parental support that he is responsible for (since Brionna is his child, still)? Perhaps going to court over that or something because the situation that you presented above, seems to me, like harassment. In my opinion, you have all the right to be asking for his financial support for your child because he is still responsible for her whether he or his girlfriend like that. And moreso, what say does she in his life? Yeah, sure, they’ve had children together, too, but I’m sure she’s fully aware that he has other children that he needs to care for in the same way. That’s just harassment from her part, as a mother of one of his children, she should understand what it is like to have to deal with a child without the support of a father. Plus, it’s not fair for you. You’re only doing what you consider is best for your child and you’re doing the most that you can. If there is a way to getting him to commit to help you without his girlfriend making a fuss about it, then I think it’d be better for you. ...I don’t think it’s healthy for your baby to be seeing the discussions between all of you, so if there is a way to get around all the fussing, you should give it a go.. (Do forgive me if I end up sounding nosy..)
Kagome, violence is sadly part of life, but I hope all works out for you and your baby girl. I’m not as religious as my family, but I make exceptions - I’ll pray for you. My mom had a similar problem. With my half brother. But it all worked out, so have faith.
I’ll probably have to get Skype in about two years. A great friend of mine might temporarily move to another province for collage. I’d miss her more than anything. . . .
